Friendship doubles joy and sorrow cut into half. Justness of the sentence this wise we can not reject Interwoven braided friendship is vital in one's life. When many people struggling to find a material advantage in the relationships, loyalty, and will support each other both in pleasure and distress become fundamental values. But the strong friendship that should start from ourselves. Here is how to keep the fabric of friendship is not destroyed:
Confidence
You should be able to learn to pay more attention to the person who is speaking. Do not ignore or be indifferent. If you want to be useful for others, give the proper attitude. You can also practice different kinds of social skills like how to talk to interesting to other people, how to lead community organizations, how fascinating look at the podium, and the other to get more friends. It could also often give alms to others. But the core of your ability to make friends is self confidence. If you love yourself, other people will like you. This is not the same as selfish. Appreciate this problem myself. If you look down on yourself, most likely you will be so to others. Or even worse. "Without confidence, there will be no friendship." So says Epicurus, an ancient Greek origin of the human soul.
Form a positive self-image
You should be aware that self-image is still one important factor in establishing friendships. If you do not realize who you are and how it should behave, you will be hard to build good relationships with others, how you feel about yourself will affect your mind about them and your attitude in relationships with them. This you can not avoid. If you feel worthless, you could have negative thoughts below;
• "I am a lowly, better resign." Mindset like this make you resign, go and take refuge into a defensive shell. Surviving from what? Defend yourself from yourself! Next, you will hamper your own spontaneity. Moving become free; to right the wrong, to the left wrong; forward hit, hit back. Next, you'll hate spontaneity of others. When others can be comfortable and free with no load, you'll hate it.
• "You're ugly, they were ugly!". The second possibility that you can take is to negate the presence of others. "Ah, you're ugly and no more bail than them. Bad all! "What you make is" prohibit "the presence and significance of others and raise his own ego. If you do so, you close the door tightly a friendship.
• "I do not like that!" Or you too will be people who talk too much and trying desperately to prove that you are precious in the eyes of others. That you are really good. That you do not like other people thought. Though the charge that you are not worth the accusations that have not addressed it to yourself. Most likely other people will not accuse you like that.
• "They must be defeated!" Another possibility is that you will always try to compete. Always trying to beat down others and raise your self. Every person that you face you see and think like the enemy or opponent who at any time could undermine the reliability and comfort you.
Be assured that you are able to
Be assured yourself that you are able to walk with others. That you can be trusted. That you can be relied upon. That you can rely on. That you created in the form that best fit the wisdom of God. God formed you to love others and live peacefully with others. Your self created to be warm, noble, and humane.
Recalls a childhood friendship
Remember your childhood friendship. Imagine all the things you will ever make it with your friends in childhood. Imagine the objects, places, and feelings you share with them. Catch back to when you like the most of old friendship and all the events that never happened. After that, start a new friendship. Value of childhood friendship that you take longer to build new relationships.
Leave liver injury
Dispose of all emotional wounds. Remember all the people had liver injury. If you keep it, you'll undermine your opportunity to grow and thrive in the world. If you run out of time just to think about the wound, you will be hard to open up.
Accept your shortcomings
Accept your imperfections. If you expect too much from yourself, you will be hard to move forward. You'll always look back to see if other people notice your mistake. Additionally, you will expect others to meet your standards of "tough". They will feel that you do not accept yourself as is. If you accept yourself as is, others will easily close to you.
Confidence
You should be able to learn to pay more attention to the person who is speaking. Do not ignore or be indifferent. If you want to be useful for others, give the proper attitude. You can also practice different kinds of social skills like how to talk to interesting to other people, how to lead community organizations, how fascinating look at the podium, and the other to get more friends. It could also often give alms to others. But the core of your ability to make friends is self confidence. If you love yourself, other people will like you. This is not the same as selfish. Appreciate this problem myself. If you look down on yourself, most likely you will be so to others. Or even worse. "Without confidence, there will be no friendship." So says Epicurus, an ancient Greek origin of the human soul.
Form a positive self-image
You should be aware that self-image is still one important factor in establishing friendships. If you do not realize who you are and how it should behave, you will be hard to build good relationships with others, how you feel about yourself will affect your mind about them and your attitude in relationships with them. This you can not avoid. If you feel worthless, you could have negative thoughts below;
• "I am a lowly, better resign." Mindset like this make you resign, go and take refuge into a defensive shell. Surviving from what? Defend yourself from yourself! Next, you will hamper your own spontaneity. Moving become free; to right the wrong, to the left wrong; forward hit, hit back. Next, you'll hate spontaneity of others. When others can be comfortable and free with no load, you'll hate it.
• "You're ugly, they were ugly!". The second possibility that you can take is to negate the presence of others. "Ah, you're ugly and no more bail than them. Bad all! "What you make is" prohibit "the presence and significance of others and raise his own ego. If you do so, you close the door tightly a friendship.
• "I do not like that!" Or you too will be people who talk too much and trying desperately to prove that you are precious in the eyes of others. That you are really good. That you do not like other people thought. Though the charge that you are not worth the accusations that have not addressed it to yourself. Most likely other people will not accuse you like that.
• "They must be defeated!" Another possibility is that you will always try to compete. Always trying to beat down others and raise your self. Every person that you face you see and think like the enemy or opponent who at any time could undermine the reliability and comfort you.
Be assured that you are able to
Be assured yourself that you are able to walk with others. That you can be trusted. That you can be relied upon. That you can rely on. That you created in the form that best fit the wisdom of God. God formed you to love others and live peacefully with others. Your self created to be warm, noble, and humane.
Recalls a childhood friendship
Remember your childhood friendship. Imagine all the things you will ever make it with your friends in childhood. Imagine the objects, places, and feelings you share with them. Catch back to when you like the most of old friendship and all the events that never happened. After that, start a new friendship. Value of childhood friendship that you take longer to build new relationships.
Leave liver injury
Dispose of all emotional wounds. Remember all the people had liver injury. If you keep it, you'll undermine your opportunity to grow and thrive in the world. If you run out of time just to think about the wound, you will be hard to open up.
Accept your shortcomings
Accept your imperfections. If you expect too much from yourself, you will be hard to move forward. You'll always look back to see if other people notice your mistake. Additionally, you will expect others to meet your standards of "tough". They will feel that you do not accept yourself as is. If you accept yourself as is, others will easily close to you.
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